Chains and whips may excite Rihanna, but she’s not the only freak of the industry out there. Fetishes these days are more openly known, but how freaky is too freaky? Is there really a limit to what can acceptably turn another person on?
When two people start to get into the sexual sides of each other, they begin to learn about new things the other is into. Some people like being handcuffed, while others may have a foot fetish.
One of the two may sound more appealing to you than the other, but that doesn’t mean the other fetish is wrong. It’s really about finding a compatible partner in the bedroom. If two people have
common sexual preferences, ideals of fetishes can rarely be found “too freaky”.
How much is too much you may ask, well socially, I believe nothing, no matter what my opinions on it are, is too erotic. In the book “Nina Hartley’s Guide to Total Sex” by Nina Hartley with I. S. Levine, “Bondage & Discipline Dominance & Submission Sadism and Masochism” (BDSM) is covered.
“Those whose primary sexual orientation involves regular activities in the realm of BDSM learn the hard way that dating or attempting to mate with non-kinky people just doesn’t work.” Hartley and Levine have a point; it’s not that BDSM is “too freaky”, but it’s just not some individuals’ cup of tea. People may find this to be too much because of deriving pleasure from pain. I’m sure for most people the latex suits and collars and leashes are enough of a turn off to even think twice about trying something new.
That’s a mere matter of preference. Some people easily forget that many illegal ideals, are indeed fetishes as well. For legality reasons, there are boundaries. Though some fetishes seem appalling or even just plain disgusting, some are very much illegal, and that’s the only time you won’t catch me saying “Hey, more power to you!” and more along the lines of “What the %&$@?!” Trust, illegal fetishes are illegal for a reason. Necrophilia, pedophilia, and bestiality are the most commonly known illegal fetishes and should stay that way. We all know why and never have to question it, that’s why we can forget that they are fetishes because we’ve grown knowing that these are wrong. The law is the law, but when fetishes aren’t illegal, it’s your decision to determine what lines in the bedroom you may or may not cross.
I have always said that if two people are having sex, they should be able to openly discuss it amongst each other. So when I have needs and wants that need to be fulfilled, I bring them up with my girlfriend. So when I have needs and wants that need to be fulfilled, I bring them up with my girlfriend.
Some things we say that we may or may not want to incorporate in bed may be different than what we have been doing in the past. The both of us have the same mentality that new tricks can spice up our sex life, and can strengthen what we already have together.
If we try something and it doesn’t work out, or someone doesn’t like it, then so be it, it won’t happen again. Another belief of mine is that there’s no harm in trying. All this reinforces
a better relationship outside of the covers as well, it helps bond us and mold a better line of communication.
