There is a new brand of chivalry these days. When we think of chivalry, the majority of us think of men opening doors for women and bringing flowers to first dates, that kind of thing. But the very concept of chivalry has evolved into something much more interesting and rewarding: sexual chivalry.

Nowadays it doesn’t matter so much if you open a door for a woman or pull her chair out for her before sitting down to a meal. These concepts have been dubbed as chauvinistic and/or antiquated. But you know what hasn’t been thrown to the wayside? Orgasms. Female orgasms, more specifically.

Women appreciate a man who takes his time in the bedroom, someone who isn’t selfish when it comes to carnal knowledge and who understands that a woman is more than just a vagina to penetrate. If anything, when it comes to sex, a woman is a puzzle to solve. Take the time to find out what she likes, exploring her specific “spots,” learning what makes her tense up and what makes her relax. These are important factors to keep in mind when it comes to sex. No woman enjoys being with someone who only cares about his own needs, especially a man who does the same things over and over again. When you take the time to enjoy your partner it shows that you actually care about her and want her to get the most out of the experience.

The majority of men can be a bit one-sided and selfish when it comes to sex. This is something we’ve heard countless times over the years. But there are a handful of men out there in the world, a rare breed to say the least, who actually enjoy making women orgasm and take the time to pleasure them, enjoying the quick intakes of breath and the quivering legs. There is nothing sexier than making your partner feel good, and knowing that you can make her achieve an orgasm is a powerful and intoxicating feeling because, let’s be honest, it’s not always easy for a woman to achieve an orgasm. So gentlemen, the next time you’re about to “get it on” with you partner, tap the brakes a little bit. Don’t be so focused on your own pleasure, but take the time pleasure your partner first. Touch her. Kiss her. Pay attention to how she’s reacting to what you’re doing, and when you find something she likes, devote yourself to that. Make it your goal to please her as much as possible, and chances are she will return the favor exponentially. Sex should be enjoyable for both parties. No one likes a selfish lover.