The majority of people don’t equate patience with sex. We always tend to think that sex needs to be passionate and quick in order to be good, but that’s not always the case. The same can be said when it comes to foreplay.

The majority of men and women think foreplay pertains only to kissing and/or oral sex, but there is much more to it than that. Foreplay also includes simply touching your partner. This can vary depending on the situation and the mood, but it can certainly heighten the situation for both people involved in this carnal moment.

If you’re looking to have a soft, intimate night with your partner, start by giving them a massage. This is, of course, a very specific type of massage, not the kind you get from a trainer at your local gym or fitness club, unless you’re into that kind of thing of course. If your partner is fond of a certain lotion or oil, that’s what you use. Your goal is to get them as relaxed as possible before you get them riled up again. Not only does the act of the massage relax your partner but it shows how much time and energy you are willing to invest when it comes to their comfort and happiness.

Chances are this will arouse them more and more as the massage continues because, believe it or not, it’s the thought that counts.

On the other end of the spectrum, if you’re looking to have some rougher kind of fun with your partner, who is consenting of course, the right kind of touch can do wonders. A small amount of pressure against their windpipe and running your fingers through their hair and pulling back with increasing amounts of strength are just a few suggestions, but they can have amazing effects in the bedroom, or wherever you may be when the mood for some physical affection strikes you.

Sex is very intimate. We all know this, but emphasizing the aspect of touch can increase intimacy by leaps and bounds. Plus you can feel how your partner is reacting to everything you are doing while you’re doing it through their escalating heart beat, the tension of their muscles, increased rate of breathing. From here you move on to the more intricate aspects of foreplay.

Foreplay is an important aspect of sex, one that is often forgotten and cast aside as we hurry to get to the climactic conclusion of the act. But it shows maturity and prowess when you take the time to warm up your partner the right way. Chances are they will reciprocate wholeheartedly. If they don’t, chances are they’re either in shock or won’t be a very good partner in the long run.