Have you ever had a partner who seemed completely and truly content not to try in the bedroom? What’s the point of getting naked and having a little bit of fun if you’re not going to work while you’re having that fun?

We’ve all had that one partner in the bedroom who just seemed…not as into it as we were. Not saying that they weren’t interested in the lovemaking that was about to happen, but that they didn’t seem to want to work while enjoying themselves. Simply lying there while their partner did all of the work. What is the point of getting rigorous and sweaty in the bedroom if only one person is going to be doing all of the work?

Obviously there are some positions that require one person to do more work than the other, and there is nothing wrong with this at all. Missionary tends to be more difficult for the man only because it is a position that requires him to do most of the “work” and allows the woman to relax for the time being. However, the roles are obviously reversed when the woman is on top because it is she who is doing the majority of the work while the man lies back and enjoys himself. Sharing the sexual workload is paramount to a healthy and happy sex life, both inside and outside of a serious relationship.

No one wants to spend time with a selfish lover, one who simply lies back and allows the other person to do all of the work. Not only does it speak volumes about such a persons character and personality, but it’s just plain boring. And when it comes to sex, there is no greater sin or travesty than an encounter with a boring partner.

So, the next time you are getting ready to get down and dirty with your partner, keep it fair and even. If you had the chance to lay back and enjoy yourself the last time you got naked with your partner, than you have some reciprocating to do. Let them lay there and enjoy themselves while you build up a sweat.

Don’t make the mistake of being a selfish lover, because in the long run this will be the end of your sex life unless you make some serious changes. No one wants to be with someone who is selfish in the bedroom, at least not all of the time. So change it up and share the proverbial workload when it comes to your lovemaking. It’s no fun being the only person doing the “grunt work” when it comes to sex.