Have you ever looked at someone and thought to yourself “I bet they’re a total freak in the bedroom?”

We’re all guilty of it. Sexually profiling the men and women that we see on a daily basis. Making assumptions about how open they are in the bedroom based on how they look. If the person you’re drooling over is in good shape you think they can go all night without getting tired. If you see a tongue ring you assume they’ll be good at oral sex. Heavily tattooed? They must like pain. Etc,etc,etc.But, it is often times the most average looking men and women that are the most energetic, and adventurous, in the bedroom.

We’ve all heard the stereotypes about Catholic school girls and how outlandishly freaky they can get in bed, compete with descriptions of whips,chains and manacles bolted to the walls. And it is true, for the most part, that the kinkier a person is the more “plain Jane” they appear to be to the rest of the world.

In college this is a lesson that the majority of us have learned, and if you haven’t then you should most definitely begin looking for someone to teach you, if you know what I mean. If not, then I’ll make it easy on you: Start hitting on normal looking people! Just because someone looks like they’ll be a taskmaster in the bedroom doesn’t mean they’re gonna deliver. You wanna have some backbreaking, bed shattering fun? Start paying attention to average Joe and plain Jane around you. Chances are they’ll surprise you.

This doesn’t mean, of course, that only normal looking folks are secret sexual deviants. The majority of people are kinkier than they let on. Heavily tattooed or not, doesn’t mean you don’t like getting your hair pulled. Tongue stud or not, oral sex is an enjoyable precursor to some sweaty fun. Six pack abs or not, sex is the one cardio exercise that isn’t boring.

So, rather than judge the proverbial “book by its cover,” take a risk and see what happens. The man or woman that looks like a boring prude might just be the one that takes you to sexual peaks you haven’t experienced yet. Granted, they might be just as prudish as they look, but you miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take. Besides, you get better with every partner you experience and you might be shattering whatever assumptions they had about you in the process. One way or another it’ll be fun while it lasts.