Though it is often popular and risque to refer to oneself as bisexual, there are legitimate reasons for the preference that conservative men and women need to understand.

Oftentimes in our “modern” society we are faced with sexual situations that make us uncomfortable, and when we are uncomfortable we tend to make hasty assumptions and speculations. “People fear what they do not understand.” A somewhat cliched quote, but sadly it is one that rings true time and time again.

Though we live in The Bay Area, considered by most to be the most understanding and accepting place in the country, more often than not we are as guilty of judgement as our conservative neighbors in the northern and southern sections of the state. Though homosexuality is often championed by outspoken citizens of San Francisco and the East Bay, on some occasions we tend to forget that there is a middle ground between heterosexuality and homosexuality that is often criticized and openly mocked by both sides.

There are men and women out there who choose not to limit themselves to members of the opposite sex, or members of the same sex for that matter. There are men who, though they exclusively date women, are attracted to other men for purely physical reasons. There are women who are staunchly heterosexual, but who fantasize about the touch of another woman from time to time. There is nothing wrong with this, regardless of what some people may say or think.

Though often labeled as “greedy” or “confused” by both homosexual and heterosexual nay sayers, bisexuality is simply another option that we as human beings have before us when it comes to our love making. There’s a simple fact that we all need to accept: people are going to do what they want to do. You either deal with it, or risk looking like a fool.

From a purely physical point of view, men know men and women know women. If a woman is bored of dealing with men who don’t know what they’re doing “down there,” there’s nothing wrong with her finding someone who understands the proverbial plumbing better than a man does.

The same goes for men of course. This is not a situation that is exclusive to one gender, and we would all do well to remember that tastes change many times in a life. Better to live your life than sit back and wonder years later.