There are numerous assumptions each gender makes when it comes to sex. Men assume that women enjoy the dirty talk that goes on in the bedroom. Women assume that men like their sex with the lights off and only in one position. But one of the universal assumptions both genders make, is that foreplay is not necessary for good sex. This is most definitely not the case.

Have you ever gotten into your car on a cold morning, started it up and just driven off? The car doesn’t run right, does it? It sputters and jolts; idles at different speeds and spews more exhaust than normal. Because you didn’t give it time to warm up. Foreplay is the warming up time for good sex. Granted there are times when, in the heat of the moment, you just tear your partners pants off and have wild, primal, half naked sex on a park bench in the middle of the night. But, for those intimate moments in the bedroom where time is not a factor, foreplay is the first stop on the way to serious sexual climax.

Good foreplay requires patience, and knowing what your partner likes. Not all men like their fellatio the same, and not all women like their cunnilingus the same. You have to take the time to get to know your partner and what they like. When you find out what they like, you knuckle down and keep doing it until they lose their minds. Men, sadly, have to have time between orgasms, but that’s not the case with women. It should be the goal of every man to make his woman climax at least twice during foreplay. Not only will this show that you know what you’re doing, but it will make further orgasms easier to achieve during sex.

One of the most underrated aspects of foreplay is kissing. We’ve all been with at least one person who doesn’t know how to kiss. No imagine you take someone home. They look amazing, have a great personality, and you really connect with this person. One thing leads to another and you get to the bedroom. Clothes start to come off. Sexual tension is rising. And then they start forcing their tongue down your throat. Sound like a mood killer? Or, lets say they only kiss with their mouths closed and don’t quite grasp the concept of using their tongues. Sound frustrating?

Foreplay is part of sex, and it can make or break a good sexual experience. Take the time to get to know your partner’s body. Find out what works and what doesn’t. The more time you spend being intimate before sex, the better the sex will be. Not all men are averse to foreplay. The majority of us enjoy pleasing the partner we’re with. Trust me, it makes the ride much more enjoyable for both parties when you take the time to warm everything up.